Why should I write a love letter?

by Edward A. Bordi

Look around.

The world is filled with couples just getting by, doing what they always do, saying what they always say and acting like they always act. Where has that kind of "status quo" behavior led them? Not too far. Everyday couples endure stress and hardship and far too many split.

There is a solution, but few takers.

Why? Is it really that hard? How hard is it to put down that book, or turn off the TV, to skip the game, stop surfing the web, or to say 'No!' to working late? Is stepping out of the norm that difficult? Is it really that hard!?

Well, maybe it is. But isn’t it worth it?

Relationships are not easy. They take work. They require long hours of devotion, literally a lifetime of pursuit. They need constant attention and nurturing, looking after. They require you to experience pain, suffering, hardship, loss and sacrifice.

There! I said it. Relationships take “hard work” and they cause “pain.” I know it’s not a popular thing to say, but stay with me. I’m working on a point.

Yes, you'll experience some hard times, not just the good. Did you ever really think about that before? Or… are you only prepared for the good stuff; the hugs and kisses, the fun times, the laughter, the joy, the companionship, the comfort, the complete and total satisfaction that nothing else can give you? You'll get all those good things and more when you have a lifelong relationship – if you treat it well. In fact, that’s just the tip of the iceberg. It’s so much better than that, almost indescribable, the joy you can and will feel when you take the time to work at it (again, slowly) when you take the time to work at it.

You can, but (unfortunately) you may never feel that kind of rich and lasting joy. Or you may only feel it for a short time, before it’s ripped away, tragically or perhaps consequently.

• ... your love and relationship is perhaps the most important thing you have on this planet.

 

The point is this: your love and relationship is perhaps the most important thing you have on this planet. It’s more important than even your sight, your friends, your job, your house, your car and most of your relationships, too. All those things can (and some will) pass away. They won't be there at your side when you take your last breath.

So if your relationship really is that important (and it is), what are going to do about it?

Are you going to act like those people who treat it cavalierly, take it for granted; who sit by and just watch it slip away? Are you going to settle for just okay, mediocre? Just do what you have to do to stay below the radar? Is that the plan? Do you think the most important person on the planet deserves a little more than that from you? Do you think that plan will serve you well? Will it make you proud? Is it how you want your children to act?

"Son, just be a basic guy. Don’t work hard – especially at the things that matter most!"

Of course not.

So many people treat everything in their life like royalty except their king or queen and they just don’t get it; they don’t “see the light” until it's too late, sadly. Don’t be one of them. Don’t follow the crowd. Don’t wait until it’s too late.

Do something today.

You have the power to take the best thing you were ever given and give back… today, tomorrow and everyday.

You can make your life better; you can make your true love’s life better. You can do it. There is nothing more important today (who knows what tomorrow holds) than to go to that person and tell them you love them. And don’t stop there! They need to know it, words are not good enough. You need to make them feel and experience your love. Take those words and put them in writing, in a love letter. Read it aloud; talk it over – face to face – hug, kiss and then do it again tomorrow.

• You love them. Now make them a believer.

 

You love them. Now make them a believer.

Stop following the crowd, doing what everyone else is doing and awaken this cherished but fading tradition, writing romantic love letters.

If you want your relationship to withstand the greatest storms of life (they’re coming, they always do); if you want to enjoy your love today, tomorrow and forever; if you want a love that is deep, real, honest, true and longsuffering – then grab your pen and start writing.

Start your new tradition today.

Just Imagine... decades from now… you stumble upon that old chest up in the attic “under lock and key.” You tilt it open, sit back on your heals and think back as a small tear runs down your cheek. That old chest is your legacy. It’s filled with your love and your life, recorded in thousands of love letters. You don’t have to read a single letter to know how great it was, because you lived it. But you can’t help yourself. You reach inside and pull one out. After hours of reading, remembering, laughing and crying… you head downstairs, click off the light, shut the door behind you and smile... a smile that can’t be wiped off your face no matter what!

… because you have no regrets.

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